tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4742272516878916648.post265448083883960306..comments2023-05-12T06:54:39.485-04:00Comments on Her Lumpiness: Lolita Fashion and Lifestyle: Get Offa My Lawn! Lolita and TerritorialityMiss Lumpyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15787979324951814676noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4742272516878916648.post-1551656710490250262010-12-13T08:26:33.413-05:002010-12-13T08:26:33.413-05:00That is a very interesting post. I love the way yo...That is a very interesting post. I love the way you see things concering this matter I got to say I sometimes get a bit more territorial than what you describe as your own actions, even though I try a lot to be helpful to new lolitas in my community. I don't mind people doing it wrong, I mind those ones who ask for your opinion or help and get all defensive when you tell them something they didn't want to hear. Those people, I don't give any further attention to and move on.<br /><br />As for getoffegl, I am not quite sure about what it was before, I've only known it for a couple of years but I believe that most of its posts are pretty much well deserved nowadays. They deal with bad behaviours and scams mostly.Wabbie-chanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14449291507675137154noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4742272516878916648.post-33958206517984542732010-12-12T21:30:55.222-05:002010-12-12T21:30:55.222-05:00Thanks for this post. I'll be honest I have be...Thanks for this post. I'll be honest I have been dressing Lolita for almost two years now and still haven't joined sites like EGL b/c I am fearful of what others might say. I dress Lolita to make me feel better I am not going to put myself in a place to make me feel badly about something I love. This puts me in the position though of missing out on some things. It seems like many meet ups are planed through egl and I never seem to learn about them till after the case. Luckly my best friend is there to dress with me but I can say we both can get lonely without other girls to share our afternoon tea with. <br />I dream of a Lolita community that excepts everyone no matter if they are "doing it right" or not.KittyDragonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02925471419793165307noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4742272516878916648.post-68224761943790030512010-12-11T19:04:54.739-05:002010-12-11T19:04:54.739-05:00ilu for the mustache picture XD <3 <3
-lov...ilu for the mustache picture XD <3 <3 <br /><br />-love, beanfaceanna <3Ariannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08015687705061227003noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4742272516878916648.post-22141339270131244122010-12-11T07:09:19.114-05:002010-12-11T07:09:19.114-05:00Fashion isn't something that one can claim to ...Fashion isn't something that one can claim to own, but on the other hand, I think Fashion should be earned, not handed to you. I worked very hard for my frills. I worked to save for my first dress and only invested in my first dress once I knew what I was doing within this fashions' very bendable rules. I get really irritated with girls who get their parents to buy then their first AP outfit, complete with socks, bag, and jewelry. I honestly get very very angry and find myself snubbing them or ignoring them for the simple fact of 'If one has nothing nice to say, say nothing.'<br /><br /> I hate to think of myself as one of those girls. I don't talk bad about people behind their backs and I try to help any new girl that enters my Mid-western realm, but there are those...and there are a lot more of then than one would think, that enter the scene in perfect regalia, from their fluffy bonnets to their polished rocking horses, that just get me and I can't help feeling they didn't work for what they have. They didn't go though the, 'Am I doing it Right?' Hazing most of us went though. <br /><br />Maybe one day I won't feel this way any longer, but until then....<br /><br /> Thank you for this Article. It'll give me something to think about, though I tend to be stubborn in my thoughts, I'm willing to bend and change.AngelShinigamihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02641522567696588462noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4742272516878916648.post-68839981478445843152010-12-10T18:15:48.450-05:002010-12-10T18:15:48.450-05:00I agree fashion is not something we own. I admit t...I agree fashion is not something we own. I admit there are times I judge unkindly, I'm human. I never express them externally because I hate hurting people, even unintentionally. <br /><br />I wish girl's would spend less time being catty and more time helping one another. <br /><br />Great post (as usual, the Lolita community needs more sweet people like you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4742272516878916648.post-57326782606377937122010-12-10T17:28:33.452-05:002010-12-10T17:28:33.452-05:00>Besides- it's not like any of us own this ...>Besides- it's not like any of us own this fashion. <br /><br />This cannot be more correct. Western lolitas especially make such little contribution and hardly show any participation that they can barely be considered secondary fans.<br /><br />It's just the same normal/local community transplanting itself onto a niche/exotic aesthetic. LJ? Seriously? Come on! Nothing to try and one-up each other about. щ(゚Д゚щ)<br /><br />Life is too short, so people should stop fussing over details, enjoy what they like, and take it easy~<br />\(^o^)/librarianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15690619052486454934noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4742272516878916648.post-30012456118288892152010-12-10T17:06:42.533-05:002010-12-10T17:06:42.533-05:00Just to put my two cents in, a lot of what ends up...Just to put my two cents in, a lot of what ends up on Loli Secret seems like trolling to me. I don't really read it much these days, because it's gotten to the point where most of the secrets are personal attacks (which I thought were banned?). As for getoffegl, most of the people who end up there aren't there because they "look bad" or as a form of "hazing", but because they did something that was either really ignorant (like attacking someone for how they look, whether they were in lolita or not) or because they were caught out as a scammer in the sales community.<br /><br />It seems like most of the really nasty drama spawns from other locations, and that at least two of them have died off in recent years.<br /><br />Personally, I don't get upset over girls "doing it wrong". It's their business how they look, and even when we're doing it "right", we lolitas look ridiculous to the normal population. What I do get upset about is when a new lolita asks for criticism, and then explodes with "you're just elitist! You brandwhore!" and so on when she actually receives it instead of getting praise and flattery (I'll refrain from naming names, but it's been very common lately on EGL). <br /><br />I think that that behavior, more than anything else, is what starts people picking on newbies. Having a nasty attitude is far more likely to get you ripped into than having nasty clothes, I think. There are plenty of lolitas who have worn lace monsters who were treated with respect and civility because they accepted the criticism that they asked for, and likewise plenty of lolitas in brand who were told off for being bitchy.focusing the lenshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12988733850313318956noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4742272516878916648.post-1460005922699720282010-12-10T14:25:23.799-05:002010-12-10T14:25:23.799-05:00Great blog post! I hope that when I (eventually) g...Great blog post! I hope that when I (eventually) go to my first meet up I don't get ignored or hated or whatever. I <3 your blog!Princess Christy/Prince Ryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04411743405985087474noreply@blogger.com